Do I need a coach?

Wondering if you need a divorce or separation coach?

It can be hard to accept you’re going through a divorce or separation, and even harder to reach out for professional help. Wherever you are, now’s the time to talk.

There’s no right or wrong time to work with a separation or divorce coach. You might only be thinking about leaving your partner, or maybe you’ve separated but haven’t moved on.

If any of these 10 situations sound familiar to you, then I know I can help.

• 1. You don’t know whether to get a divorce or separate from your partner
  Maybe you’re considering staying in the hope it will get better and the spark will magically reignite… but you still have the nagging feeling that this isn’t quite right. Or maybe you want to leave but aren’t sure how. If you’re a woman you might be worried you’re giving up your chance of having a family or that your own family take it badly. And do you really want to go through a divorce? It sounds so expensive.
  
  
• 2. Your partner is leaving you and you feel lost
  Panic. Nausea. Anxiety. Not only are you trying to deal with the consequences of being alone, but you’ve also got financial worries and the knowledge you might lose your home and everything you’ve worked for. The rug’s been pulled out from under your feet and you just can’t steady yourself.
  
  
• 3. Your friends are great but you’re desperate for unbiased, practical advice
  Your friends and family are brilliant but there are only so many times you can unload on them. You know they mean well, but their advice is biased and is it really helping you move on? You know deep down it’s time to seek professional advice to understand how to move past the feelings of anger and resentment and get on with your life.
  
  
• 4. You feel like a failure for leaving your partner
  Maybe you had the big white wedding or you’re still living your life as the picture-perfect family. It’s hard to shatter other people’s illusion of your life, and even harder when you’re the main character in it. You worked so hard to achieve the dream family and now it’s gone.
  
  
• 5. You have no confidence communicating with your partner effectively
  It’s hard to talk to your partner now, so how on earth will you learn to communicate if you separate? Especially when there’ll be so much to sort out with the children and the house. How will you communicate what YOU need without your partner taking over or getting angry?
  
  
• 6. Your separation or divorce is high conflict
  A high conflict separation is exhausting and there are days when you just want to pull the pin and walk away. It might involve manipulation, using the children as pawns or threatening behaviour. I have extensive knowledge of high conflict divorce and the impact it can have on all the family. With the right coaching and support you will get through it.
  
  
• 7. You don’t know understand how the divorce process works
  Trying to understand any new process is difficult but when you’re weighed down with emotion, it can feel insurmountable. I can’t give you financial or legal advice, but I can point you in the right direction and offer support throughout the process. I’ll help you separate your emotions from the practical decisions you need to take and give you confidence when working with your lawyer.
  
  
• 8. You’re not sure who you are anymore
  You’re smart, successful, in control and thought your life ticked every box. Then this happened. It’s easy to lose your self-identity when a huge part of your life is taken away. You’re struggling to see a future without your ex. Let’s find that future!
  
  
• 9. You’re desperate to move on but aren’t sure how
  You left your partner months ago but still can’t find the energy to start a new life. You’re still grieving for the past and life doesn’t feel any easier.
  
  
• 10. You’re tired of being on a treadmill and want to enjoy life again
  Each day is starting to feel like Groundhog Day, in fact, you can’t remember the last time you laughed. You want to feel free again, learn to love life and maybe talk to that gorgeous person you see in the coffee shop each week, but you aren’t sure where to start.

Find out more

If any of these situations resonate with you then divorce or separation coaching can help. I’ll help you break away from the paralysis and get you moving forward with confidence.

When you’re ready to get in touch just head to my contact page. You can book your free 15-minute call to find out more about coaching, or jump straight in and book a coaching session.